Friday, August 12, 2005

Love or Hate... Which is it?

Sometimes, I experience alternating feelings of love and hatred towards some one.

Wonder which one is my real feeling.

It occurred to me that both feelings are equally real at the moment that I have them. Both feelings produce their corresponding physical effects in the body.

There is no such thing as " My official feeling towards this is ...".

It IS what it IS at that moment.

Ofcourse if you have more of the loving feeling than hatred towards someone, you tend to think
"Generally speaking, I like ..." and vice versa.
But the truth is that each feeling that we have is real at that moment.

Now this is a scary truth - looking back at events and people on whom I have had feelings of hatred.

But, as every cloud has a silver lining, How does the awareness of this truth help me?

If I would like to have more of the feelings of unconditional love, compassion, kindness etc.
then keep the state of your mind accordingly.

Feelings originate from your heart, however, if your mind is clouded with negativity, then that will drain the positive energy out of your feelings and leave you dry and negative.

So surround yourself and create an atmosphere of whatever it is that you would like to have feelings of.

Listening, reading, mingling with people and thinking - all contribute to creating
that environment.

In turn, That will help create and nurture your desired feelings.

Thursday, August 11, 2005

Grow Younger

I came to this country about 9 years ago for my higher studies
along with several of my undergraduate collegemates.

Back home, We did a lot of things together,
watched the same movies, talked the same talk, wore the same style of clothes,
ate the same type of food,read the same type of books, cracked the same type of jokes, you know what I mean. I guess that's why we got along
pretty well.

Now We have a Yahoo groups where we share what's happening in our lives.
Observing some of the comments posted there and observing some of my friends
where I live currently who have come from a similar background
as me and my friends, I can see that they derive their pleasure from doing the exact
same things that they did 10 years ago. Nostalgia, habit, whatever it is, they find comfort in them.

Something doesn't feel right. Now, what's wrong with that? I ask myself.

First, I feel you are not giving yourself a chance to explore new things, let new thoughts come into your life which is the foundation of one's growth.

New thoughts, doing new things lead to new experiences which IS growth.

Second, if you don't grow,
you will start feeling old and vulnerable as you are not keeping up with the change of your inner self. Those rituals that we find comfort and security in, shield us from the internal change and shifts we're constantly undergoing.

I have experienced the converse of the second effect in my own life. My reading habits,eating habits, thinking habits have changed in the past few years and I am better for it.

I feel young and 21 and now I know why and I also know why my fellow peers sometimes feel old and
find life, well, lifeless. So there's the secret to eternal youth.

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